You Are Your God

"When we connect in sexual fusion with our lovers, we open ourselves to fusion with the universe. By aligning our total beings with others, we open the pathway to the angels…..By fusing and connecting the pathway of the chakras from the root to the crown, we become open and able to travel to other realms. From our bottoms to our tops we open and join our totality to that of another and hence to that of the huge power that we are all part of. We enter and experience the God realms, where all entities are one. We are no longer perceiving ourselves as separate beings."―Rivka Léah. Ecstatica: Woman’s Realms of Power.

Each of us gods is a separate entity, but most of us combine our higher powers with those of an intimate other, although some of us do not. One of the ways in which we come to know the divine within is through deep interaction with an other god. The divine in the other echoes the divine within.

We are not just physical beings, but also spiritual beings. Some of us mistakenly believe that spiritual and sexual energy are opposites. We think that being celibate is synonymous with being spiritual. We suppress our sexuality in an attempt to be more spiritual, but in so doing actually block our progress to that goal.

According to many after-life reports, the primary challenge of our time in the earth-plane is to unite love and sex, a full seven-chakra relationship. Our purpose in life is to evolve all of the chakras. Because many of us are so disconnected this can be difficult to achieve. But deep down there is a longing for the perfect relationship, the one that will truly make us soar.

The coming together of two energies (e.g., Yin/Yang) produces one of the most powerful forces of life. It is the universal force that compels us to seek another. The coming together of two opposing energies, if healthy, should spiral from the lowest to the highest chakra in each person. What is being attempted is raising the kundalini energy upwards together.

Sometimes the spiraling may stop at the lower chakras and remain earthbound. This is what happens when people become intimate solely on a physical level and are not including their higher selves in the sexual relationship. The split between the upper and lower chakras is perpetuated. When sexuality is blocked in this way, the acceleration of the evolution that could be achieved between two gods is not achieved. Thus hurt and dissatisfaction come into the relationship, with the result that people are compelled to move on to another person. This cycle of new relationships and dissatisfaction continues unless there is a resolution of this most fundamental problem. When we become intimate with a person only on a physical level, we can get very hurt emotionally and mentally, even though it is not obvious at the time.

Sex is supposed to be an expression of love. If love isn’t there it is because of the disconnection between the upper and lower chakras. Sex in itself is a powerful binding force. We cannot just have sex with someone and think that it isn’t going to affect us as sex creates strands of energy that bind our chakras with the person that we choose to sleep with. According to Professor John Russell of Edinburgh Medical school, chemicals released during sex actually cement relationships by encouraging people to stay together. Many studies of what people want in their relationships have found that love and friendship top the list with sex coming in only third or fourth. In other words, there is a tremendous aspiration to unite the chakras.

What we are experiencing today is a backlash to the repressive attitude that the church and previous generations had towards sexuality. Sex was once considered to be taboo outside of marriage, oral sex was a sin, and the missionary position was the proper way to have sex. Then came the 1960’s with its emphasis on sexual liberation. The birth-control pill liberated women as it negated the threat of unwanted pregnancy. Millions were offered an alternative, and were led to believe that sexual liberation would liberate them in general.

Here is how some Americans who lived through the 1960s describe their experiences of that time.

"Sexuality was presented in the movies and the media as being lower chakra, purely physical. Yes there was love, but the spiritual component of sexuality was not only missing but it was not even mentioned"

" Playboy and the movies made you feel that sex was about naked bodies and lust. I saw women as objects but maybe they saw me like that as well."

" The pill never liberated women. It just gave men carte blanche to screw around with no sense of responsibility. It was hell"

" Sex was supposed to be an expression of love. I never felt loved. I merely felt used."

For many sex remains recreational throughout their lives. Teenagers flit from one body to another, turning each other on sexually, opening up the lower chakras too quickly. They get involved physically with each other without being emotionally prepared. But far from being sexually liberated the new generations are more shut off than ever. Where is your heart if you can kiss three different guys in one night? See a different guy one night and another guy the next? There is also a growing consumption of alcohol by teenagers which blocks emotions and amplifies physical sensations.

1. I am my relationships. 2. Can we, or can we not, create true-love relationships. Or is that left only to destiny? 3. It is necessary to keep my heart open. 4. I seek a seven-chakra relationship with another. 5. The greatest challenge for most is to unite love and sex. 6. I wish there were a book How to Love. 7. I can love another only as much as the other loves me. Love is fed and nurtured by the return of love from the other. Any great difference between the intensity of the feelings of one compared to the other is not caused by love. 8. Is my unconditional love for another unconditional by choice or because of undue fear of loss? 9. Decision is an illusion of the ego. I am along for the ride in my body over which I have little control. 10. Relationships: I seek my echo in others, echoes of different parts of myself.

We need to become conscious of what each chakra represents and we need to work through issues that block the natural flow of energy in the chakra.

The way we view sexuality depends on how far we have evolved, each of us being at different places along the path under foot. There are times in our lives when we can indulge in one-night stands and in relationships that never go beyond the physical. There can be a period of time when we are younger that the sexual urges are so primary that we are driven by lust. In this stage people can have lots of sex, yet because their heart is not open, they are as virgins, untouched. This is hopefully a behavior that will change as their energy rises upwards and they can go on to unite love and sex

The earliest peoples led lower-chakra based lives, eating, killing and procreating. The trouble is, modern society has not evolved enough into the upper chakra realm because the institutions over the years have kept people in the lower chakras. The food corporations have done this by inventing and developing processed foods which do not contain sufficient life force to give us the energy to soar. But evolution demands that we do soar and rise above our primitive natures.

Those who are stuck in the lower chakras tend to be overtly focused on the physicality of sexuality. There are be over emphasis on the mechanics of the sexual act itself. If a person only operates from the lower chakras there will be this constant seeking of sexual gratification. If the energy is blocked from moving up the chakras it can focus on variety of positions and partners. A major drawback of being stuck in the lower chakras is that everyone’s true need which is love is not fulfilled. The harm is when the heart is not involved as it impedes the natural flow of energy.

"I’ve been with a prostitute and it was purely mechanical and hardly worth the money" This is what can happen when we stay at the lower realm as we are ultimately never satisfied. To compensate for this lack of fulfillment in ourselves we seek it in material goods and entertainment. When our energy is not given a chance to expand upwards we can seek status, wealth and power. These become substitutes for the light that we crave.

What does it mean, "good in bed"? Good positions? "He pushes the right buttons"? "She came more than once"? By focusing on the purely physical we are in effect repressing ourselves, our natural cosmic flow. But the soul as part of its journey may need to go through many purely physical relationships on the way to the light. But the more open and aware we become the more we become driven to something more, something higher. We want the heart and the upper chakras to make us truly unite and spiral upwards to the light.

Men and women go through phases when they just want sex and not relationships. Men get locked into that phase a little while longer. A lot of women wear the good girl mask and say that love is necessary for sex, yet their behavior says otherwise. With the sexual revolution men’s behavior has not changed as much as women’s—which has changed considerably. They have sex earlier and have more premarital partners than previous generations. Women have become more like men in their attitude to sex. Men however in our culture don’t have to wear the mask and are more freely sexual. However the feeling nature, in spite of the sexual revolution have not changed. We still have the human feelings of jealousy, anger, betrayal showing us that the need for monogamy is still there. However monogamy cannot be imposed as it should flow naturally and voluntarily between a couple when they truly love.

Evolution has made it such that people will seek each other out. Having that essential someone in our lives provides us with enormous capacity for growth and self awareness. Another person can act as a mirror to our soul and reflect the God that we really are.

Within a loving relationship there are pleasure, healing, and reproductive aspects of sex. Love enhances all three aspects. It depends on how evolved we are as people, whether the relationship stays on a lower chakra level or expands into a higher realm. We can start out on lower chakra relationships and enjoy them for what they are. But if they continue for a period of time there is a price to be paid in emotional pain. The basic lower chakra relationship will fade unless it feeds and is fed by the upper sexual energy. When you have sex your body makes a promise even if your mind doesn’t. When a woman has sex with a man the female immune system secretes a fluid that will protect the sperm, thereby imposing a biological monogamy.

Where does sex begin? In the mind? A look? A touch? A smile? A Kiss? We really need to become aware of how we interact and relate to people. We need to become more aware of the role different people play in our lives. People come in to teach us lessons about who we are. If we relate purely on a physical level then that is where we are at in our cosmic evolution. We can remain stuck here or we can choose to move on to achieve a higher state of being. But there are blocks and obstacles on the way to having a full chakra relationship. We are influenced by the media, saturated with physical images that are two dimensional. The problem is you cannot represent the spiritual by the visual image of sex. Therefore the visual image of sex is fundamentally incomplete and if we are limited to the visual by being stuck in the lower realm. This leaves us fundamentally incomplete and forever dissatisfied. If we wore the right perfume, were more tanned, more beautiful then we would attract Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Evolution gave us the pleasure of sex for the purpose of procreation but as human beings we naturally began to focus on the pleasure itself. But the pleasure is the impetus to take us into the higher realm, where it becomes joy and ecstasy. Therefore the pleasure is also to guarantee the cosmic evolution up through the chakras.

Just by definition the sexual relationship concentrates the energy fields into a single space. This fact alone makes sex very powerful and not to be taken lightly. The joining of the energy fields is meant to flower upwards and if this is prevented an unhealthy, unbalanced situation occurs. It is like planting a seed and not giving it enough sunlight. Sometimes people get involved too soon in a sexual relationship and this may not be healthy. Until you know that you are not bonding two incompatible individuals you need to delay acting upon your immediate desires.

When you are starting a relationship with someone take a look at where you are connected to that person. Will it be possible to connect with the upper levels of that person? If not then you should not pursue a sexual relationship with that person. Otherwise you may be doomed to a relationship that will not grow. The sex may be good on a physical level but the relationship won’t last. This can only mean emotional pain at the end.

There sometimes can be a conflict between upper and lower chakra energies and it can sometimes be difficult to reconcile the two energies. The lower chakra energy seeks stability and security and a desire to maintain the status quo. Without upper chakra energy this can led to stagnation, contraction and lack of growth. The upper chakras tend towards expansiveness and growth. It is important to recognize both energies in ourselves and how if possible to integrate them in this lifetime.

Destiny gives us relationships. Sometimes we can connect on the higher plane and not on the lower plane although this happens less often. We can also connect on the lower plane and have no higher connection to the other person. The result is that neither gets us a seven chakra relationship.

The mistake that we can make at times is that we can confuse and over identify the love with the person. If we are left by the person we are hurt, betrayed, bereft. The hope of ever attaining the light is lost. But the true source of love is this fusion to the divine. If that person shuts down on us or leaves then our connection to the divine is lost But each of us has this connection to God, a direct link, whose messages come through our intuition, our dreams, our thoughts.

"The Almitra spoke again and said. And what of marriage master? And he answered saying Together you shall be forever more And let there be spaces in your togetherness And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another, but make not a bond of love Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls Fill each other’s cup but drink not from the one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each of you be alone Even as the strings of the lute are alone Though they quiver with the same music Give your hearts but not into each other’s keeping For only the hand of life can contain your hearts And stand together, yet not too near together For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow Not in each other’s shadow."―Kahil Gilbran

Unbalanced relationships are the most common source of emotional pain. Very often one person has crossed the gap and has opened their heart to the other person, but the other has not. Some people enter into physical relationships with their heart, but it is not reciprocated on that level. Some people have their second chakra linked into their heart chakra and when they make love it is with an open heart. Another type of unbalance is when some people are farther along the spiritual path than others, and their approach to sexuality will reflect this.

What happens if we stay at lower chakra relationships is that we are ultimately never satisfied. We go from love to lover, forever on the search for the elusive Mr. Right. When the relationship is totally lower chakra pregnancy should be avoided. The proper time to have a child is when the upper chakras are included in the parents relationship, thus providing a healthy environment for the newborn. What we have is a perpetuation of lower chakra sexuality from generation to generation. For the baby to have a fully integrated energy field the parents must have that. The baby spends its entire time in its early years living in the chakra field of the mother, if not both parents. The baby needs to be nourished by a full chakra field. Special children can be born to parents who have integrated at all levels of chakra. A baby when it is born does not have a strong enough auric field to protect itself and needs the help and protection of its parents until he/she is three years, when they get their own auric field. A child is best off when both parents have spinning chakras at both levels. This makes for a fully nourishing environment.

There is a huge pull towards relationships as we seek out love and wholeness. What is it with love and romance that we are so attracted to it? It is because it is a glimpse of the divine energy. Look at what happens when we fall in love. We feel ourselves soar as ordinary day events become extraordinary. Our vibration quickens and we literally see the world through a new lens, our vision expands. We become the best of who we are as we bask in the wonder of our new found love. Our stairway to heaven is lit by this love that makes our hearts quicken and open. There is no greater feeling. We are basking in the energy of the divine within.

It is the beginning of the relationship that is the problematic for on the one hand we see the best and the divine of the other person and there is a tendency to overlook problems in the initial flush of infatuation. The problem is now to balance our love with a more objective appraisal of the other. The matter is further complicated by sexual fusion with the other which will create a bond.

In the beginning of a relationship there is a huge outflow of energy between the couple. Each one gives a lot of energy to the other through attention, care and love. This helps to increase the vibrational energy of the couple as they begin to soar upwards. Love gives them wings and allows them to fly higher together.

But sometimes a couple can forget how wonderful their love was in the beginning when it all of a sudden it begins to grow stale. "How can the light that burned so brightly suddenly turn so pale?" What happens when the love begins to die? The issue is was it ever there in the first place? Did we fall in love with a person or a myth? Consider the following.

Jon is a man in his late forties who has had a number of what he terms as failed relationships, including a marriage. He has now met a new lady called Jane and he does not want to repeat his mistakes. To begin with his past relationships are not mistakes as long as he can see where he went wrong. In the past he got involved too early sexually before knowing how much the other person felt about him. He would fall in what he thought was love too quickly. But Jon also was carrying a lot of emotional baggage from his childhood as his mother had abandoned him to his father at an early age. Jon was frightened of loss and in the past had clung to unhealthy relationships even though they had long since past their sell by date. He confused the intensity of his fear of loss with the amount of love he actually had for women.

Jon had to learn to separate the intensity of the fear of loss from the actual love. Nobody could take away the pain of his initial loss. He noticed that a lot of this feeling in the past was centered in his solar plexus that would knot up with despair when he sensed the woman becoming too distant and his love was not being sufficiently returned. This was enough to send him into a state of panic and trauma. The more he clung to the relationship the worse he felt as it was causing him to relive the original loss.

Jon had to learn to separate the two emotions and see which was the fear of loss and which was love. By doing so the intensity of the fear of loss gradually subsided.

Marcia fell in love with George when she was in graduate school. He was a young successful lawyer who was very wealthy. Marcia was physically very beautiful, the type of woman George would love to be seen with. They married and three children later George announced that he had met a younger woman and was leaving her. The seeds of the imbalance are there in the very beginning had Marcia actually looked. Her husband had married her because of her youthful looks, a lower chakra attraction that had not grown upwards. Now that her looks were beginning to fade so too had her husband’s interest and he began to look elsewhere.

The seeds of imbalance in a relationship are there in the beginning if only we could see them. But what very often happens is in our desire for a relationship we tend to go into denial about the qualities of the other person. We can be blind to their negative qualities or we can see them but refuse to acknowledge them. What happened in the case of George is that he became stuck in a lower chakra relationship which will ultimately not bring him happiness. He can go from woman to woman as what matters to him is what they look like, so he can never be ultimately satisfied.

The mystery has been what makes us love one and not another. This is where some say destiny comes in. Look at how many people meet their Mr. Right in the most unlikeliest of places and times. A chance encounter as the car breaks down and the man who stops to help turns out to be the one that you are walking down the aisle with the following year. You crash into a car and the person that you crash into turns out to be the one. Before we incarnate we make pacts to meet up with certain people while we are here. We have a karmic connection to these people and we will come in to work out certain issues to further our growth with them. This is how we can often find the most mismatched of people together but they are together for deeper karmic reasons that we may not be aware of. Sometimes destiny will match us with a person to work out certain issues. We may travel a lifetime with this person or we may move on once the issues have cleared. We may come in to bring up children together and when that is done it may be time to travel either alone or with a new partner.

There is a great moral aspect about relationships where the imbalance is around power. That power has to be wielded very morally. There are various types of imbalance, the most common probably with one being more in love than the other. This is a chakra imbalance with the heart being more involved by one person. To simply stay in a relationship until something better comes along is not honoring either yourself or the other person. You need to take a look at where you are bonding with a person and what is the mutual degree of involvement of each of the chakras.

As far as relationships go, our true eyes are those of our heart. Here is the story of Robin, a man with a great big heart who grew enormously while he was here on earth. Robin was a man who had inherited enormous wealth from a sugar manufacturing fortune. Robin felt this to be an evil karma that he sought to overcome by helping others to develop spiritually. In his travels to India Robin met and fell in love with an Indian girl who had been crippled from birth. Robin could have had his choice of American society ladies yet he saw his special someone through his heart’s eyes.

Very often people who have spent years working on themselves and who have evolved to quite a high level find that it is difficult to find a person who is on their level. The higher up one goes the less of a choice there seems to be, which is a reason why many people today are travelling alone. The answer to this problem is right from the start, to seek a seven chakra relationship. Seek only others who are capable of having it with you.

The seven-chakra relationship provides a vision for everyone of what a relationship can be and become. Right from the start the combined energy of a couple works at healing and unblocking the chakras together. With every embrace energies mingle and spiral upwards. The seven-chakra relationship is one where there is a deliberate effort to help align each other’s chakras and to help mend the imbalances.

In a seven-chakra relationship there is an inflow and outflow of energy, a healthy giving and receiving. Each person will want to evoke the very best in the other and do what they can to encourage each other’s growth.

The couple’s mutual energy field is the channel through which the journey from the lower to the upper can occur. As we make love with the essential someone we are making love with God, because we are Gods ourselves.

1) While standing, face each other, taking care to align each chakra with the other’s. Close your eyes. 2) Starting in the base chakra imagine the energy going from your base chakra to theirs, in a clockwise motion. Now the energy in the two base chakras is turning faster and faster together as though the wheel is turning faster and faster. 3) Now slowly have the energy spiral slowly up to the next chakra, the second chakra. As before envisage the energy spinning from to the equivalent chakra in the other person faster and faster into yours and back to theirs. 4) After a while spiral up to the third chakra and do the same as before. 5) Now you are at the barrier between the lower and upper chakras. 6) Now spiral, only this time more intensely upwards to the heart chakra. ¤¤¤ You will encounter blocks in the chakras that will need time and energy to clear. If a certain chakra is more blocked, then spend more time at that chakra spinning the energy. If there is a blockage then it means that a certain area cannot receive or transmit light. You can also choose to use colors to help to unblock and to spin the chakras. For example use red at the bottom chakra and imagine red spinning from one chakra to the next and then spiraling upwards to the second chakra begin to use the color orange. Then go on to seeing strands of yellow coming together and spinning towards and coming from the third chakra, solar plexus. It is interesting that green, the color of the heart chakra, is made up of the color directly above and directly below it. It is the chakra that connects the upper and the lower realms. This is a chakra that can be very blocked in many people as people tend to close down the heart chakra so as to avoid emotional pain. In our avoidance of hurt and pain, we are preventing ourselves from feeling the joy and ecstasy of love. There can be a lot of vulnerability around the heart chakra, especially as it begins to open. ¤¤¤ 7) Now you are into the throat chakra which governs verbal and non-verbal communication with each other. This can be blocked when there are times in our lives when we have not spoken our truths. We can also come in with a blocked chakra coming from a past life. We may have been punished for speaking out in the past and now in this lifetime we have become afraid. 8) Try to empty the mind of all pressures and worries before moving on to the third eye. Again start to spin the energy from your chakra to other’s, and back. You can if you like use the color purple to help to develop each other’s intuitive powers. 9) The crown chakra energy, which is the opening to cosmic consciousness, can also be worked upon by seeing the energies here as spinning and spiraling together. 10) Now have all the chakra wheels spin together, as if a column of rotating energy which enters from the earth through the base chakra, and spirals up through all seven chakras, and out the top and into to the universe.

Fusion between male and female energies is a vital and empowering source that is one of the steps towards enlightenment. What is being attempted is raising and intensifying the kundalini energy together. One of the least known purposes of sex in a seven chakra relationship is to help each other to evolve. Men and women need their love so they can reveal their gods. Their love brings them further along the path to their inner gods. The physical body is the vehicle which can take us through to the highest levels. When we connect in sexual fusion with our lovers we open ourselves to fusion with the universe. Great relationships are ones that are still evolving, forever spiraling upwards. When two people who are in a seven chakra relationship make love it is as though they are connected with lines of energy spiraling from one chakra to the next. With the interaction of the two energies, forces start to pass between them and as the energies exchange other powers are drawn to them. It is as if the universe shares in what they do.

When two beings are united in one soul in total integration of their chakras, they forget and loose themselves. They go beyond their physical limitations and travel outside of themselves to other realms. Together they become the light.

Where there is really marriage, that is where there is love, the ideal is mingled with it. A nuptial bed makes a halo in the darkness. Were it given to the eye of flesh to perceive the fearful and enchanting sights of the superior life, it is probable that we should see the forms of night, the winged strangers, the blue travellers of the invisible, bending, a throng of shadowy heads, over the luminous house, pleased, blessing, showing to one another the sweetly startled maiden bride, and wearing the reflection of the human felicity upon their divine countenances. If, at that supreme hour, the wedded pair, bewildered with pleasure, and believing themselves alone, were to listen, they would hear in their chamber a rustling of confused wings. Perfect happiness implies the solidarity of the angels. That little obscure alcove has for its ceiling the whole heavens. When two mouths, made sacred by love, draw near each other to create, it is impossible that above that ineffable kiss there should not be a thrill in the immense mystery of the stars. These are the true felicities. No joy beyond these joys. Love is the only ecstasy, everything else weeps. To love or to have loved, that is enough. Ask nothing further. There is no other pearl to be found in the dark folds of life. To love is a consummation.-Victor Hugo, Les Miserables.

The inner light is created within us. Many people are deficient in this inner light and therefore the upper chakras suffer the highest deficiencies. This makes nutrition the first step for most personal development because proper nutrition will create more intense supplies of inner light. This also requires that the cells be permeable so as to 1) allow the nutrients in 2) to convert the physical energy of the cells to the life force light. Certain foods affect the cells walls by preventing the life force light from being created because they block the inflow of the essential nutrients.

It is not that the chakras get blocked it is that they are not getting enough light in the first place for example when the heart chakra does not receive the life force light that is being created enough by the cells, the heart is apathetic as it does not have enough energy. (This is why apathy and not hate is the opposite of love) If the cells are not producing enough inner then the upper chakras will be deprived of enough energy to operate fully. Personal development must begin………….

The lowest chakra converts the earth plane’s matter and energy to the animate living energy. How well it does this is determined by how well each of the body’s cells functions. The most important cell function is the permeability (hardness) of the cell wall as it is the cell wall that determines how well nutrients enter the cell and how well toxins exit. This in turn determines how much living energy is made available for the chakras. So the central problem becomes what to eat so as to best supply the chakra energy, the "Light of Life".